I know your kind of poly. No single men allowed. You’re wife can find another woman, and even bring her home for you to fuck. Ah the virility of an open relationship. If you find a woman, then better still – you are exercising your sexual prowess and showing what polyamory can be about. But god forbid she bring home a man. This would undermine your masculinity. This would decrease your ownership of your wife. The same old monogamous fears arise – what if she finds him better than you? What if she leaves you? In the end, it was never about an open relationship of trust. It was never about realizing that you can’t be everything for her. It was simply about giving you more. It was about making you feel like more of a man than you could ever be.
I hear it a lot that the man isn’t really interested in dating right now. He’s pretty content with everything. Well of course he is. When we can’t get the things that we want, we can face our reasons, or we can put on that act that “I meant to do that.” If the man does go play, and then allows the woman to date a man, how rich is it to find that there are all of these terribly interesting levels of complexity in the polyamorous lifestyle. Perhaps we should take a break from it all. Unless of course you still want to bring that chick home from work. She seems to understand the rules of engagement.
Look, call it what it is. It’s the same jealous prick who needs to feel ownership. But like all jealous pricks with poor self esteem, if you were in a monogamous relationship, you would cheat in a heartbeat if you could get away with it. This is a ticket out of your misery. And for the lazy slobs who have nothing going for them, what is better than having your wife hunt for your meals. Let her do the work of charming the women and bringing them home. Complain about how women nowadays just don’t know how to deal with the real deal such as yourself. But you trust your wife to find the special ladies out there who you might be convinced to express yourself. This trust does not extend to the men. All men are pigs anyway, right? All of them except you.
Certainly there are plenty of pigs. They are just as likely to be in polyamorous relationships as they are to be anywhere else. If you find yourself thinking like the man in the previous paragraphs, you are not polyamorous. You are simply compensating for your inability to love your partner and to allow her to have her needs met.
